About Lisa
Welcome to Lisa The Poly Wife
Hi, I’m Lisa Van Sand—writer, speaker, and unapologetic advocate for ethical non-monogamy and self-discovery. My journey into polyamory wasn’t a decision made lightly; it was a path I walked with intention, love, and a deep desire for personal growth. Through open conversations, learning from my experiences, and embracing the complexities of love, I found my truth in ethical non-monogamy.
My Story
For over three decades, I was in a monogamous marriage. Like many, I followed the traditional script—dating, marriage, and building a life with one partner. But as time passed, I realized that love, intimacy, and connection aren’t limited to just one person. My husband and I had always prioritized honesty and open communication, which laid the foundation for us to explore something different:
ethical non-monogamy.
What started as a conversation about expanding our relationship eventually became a journey of self-discovery, growth, and deeper emotional connections. It wasn’t always easy, and there were challenges along the way, but what emerged was a more authentic version of myself—one who fully embraces love in all its forms.
What You’ll Find Here
Lisa The Poly Wife is a space for those curious about ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and personal growth. Whether you're navigating a new dynamic, questioning traditional relationship structures, or simply exploring what love means to you, this is a place for open discussions, real-life stories, and insights from my own experiences.
I share my journey—the lessons, the struggles, the triumphs—so others can see that love isn’t one-size-fits-all. My goal is to offer guidance, understanding, and encouragement to those walking a similar path or those simply looking to learn more.
Beyond Polyamory
When I’m not writing or talking about relationships, you can find me indulging in my passions—cooking up incredible meals, traveling to new places, and connecting with people who inspire me. I believe in living life fully, embracing joy, and never being afraid to challenge the status quo.
Join the Conversation
If you’re here, it means you’re open to exploring new perspectives on love, relationships, and self-acceptance. I invite you to read my stories, share your thoughts, and connect with a community of like-minded individuals. Let’s break down barriers, challenge outdated narratives, and redefine love together.
Welcome to my world—where love is limitless, honesty is everything, and connection is the ultimate goal.